We all know that there can be regrets after a relationship has broken up, but the question that often arises for people is how they can possibly know whether or not the breakup was in their best interests.
Because often after a breakup the feelings that overcome one are all about affection and love, and a desire to re-establish a relationship based on memories of the good things that happened with your ex-partner.
Yet we also know that getting back together with an ex-boyfriend or ex-girlfriend, no matter how desirable it might seem when the relationship has ended, can be a minefield: the arguments can start again, the disagreements that led to breakup in the first place can resume, and you’re no better off than you were before.
Obviously in a situation like this, you need to be absolutely certain that you do indeed want to get back together with your ex-boyfriend or get back together with your ex-girlfriend. Yet “recovering your ex” is not a simple matter: as we described above, the first thing you have to do is be absolutely certain that you do indeed want to get back together with them.
And then, once you’ve made that decision, you have to be absolutely certain that your relationship is going to be different this time around — when you think about it, this makes perfect sense, because if it was exactly the same, you’d just breakup again!
So how on earth are you going to make these decisions?
Well, one answer is to get help from an Internet program such as Text Your Ex Back. This is a program written by relationship advice guru Mike Fiore, who is well-known for many different programs on the Internet including Text The Romance Back and, written with Claire Casey, a program for women who want to be sure of capturing a man’s love called “Capture His Heart and Make Him Love You For Ever“.
Video – Text Your Ex Back
You may think that the idea of turning to the Internet for assistance with a relationship breakup is rather banal; however there are perfectly good reasons why this approach makes sense. For one thing, you don’t have the expense of seeing a therapist or counsellor face-to-face — obviously a major advantage!
Secondly, you can take things at your own pace, and accept only that part of the information which seems to apply to you. Furthermore, although I don’t like to mention the fact (!) there’s also a moneyback guarantee with most Internet program, which ensures that you’re never going to lose money, even if the program turns out to be unsuitable.
However, having said that, I very much doubt that you are going to find that Text Your Ex Back is unsuitable — and here’s why.
To start with, Mike Fiore majors on telling you how important it is to ensure that you really do want to get back together with your ex-partner. I mean, this seems like an obvious thing, but a lot of people who’ve gone through a relationship breakup are not sure of the dynamics of the deep emotions that they’re feeling, and because of this they are prone to make certain mistakes – like jumping in with both feet – when in fact they should be stepping back and considering just what is going on!
So Mike’s first piece of advice is to take a 30 day break from all contact with your ex-boyfriend or ex-girlfriend before you try and re-establish the relationship, or make it up with them. This allows you to maintain some distance from your ex, and ensures that you’re not getting back together out of a sense of desperation, need, obligation or guilt. (There’s a beautiful website called out of the fog which explains all of these issues beautifully — FOG standing for fear obligation and guilt!)
So after 30 days, the next question is obviously, well what are you going to say to your ex-partner? and here’s the amazing thing….
You’re not in fact going to say anything, because all of the communication that you engage in is done by text message. And the great advantage of this is that it avoids the misunderstandings that can come from communicating in person; you can use text messages, or SMS messages as a rather unemotional and detached way of communicating — and in fact you can also use them to spark your ex-partner’s interest.
And you can do that, more importantly, in a way which is nonthreatening, non-provocative, and decidedly free of obligation or guilt!
What this means in practice of course, is that you will be able to convey a sense of how you’re feeling about the breakup, and your desire to re-establish the relationship, in a way that is acceptable to your partner — meaning, it’s not going to reignite the anger, rage, or fear that led to the breakup in the first place.
Now I’ve reviewed Mike Fiore’s program in great detail, to provide you with an insight into whether or not it might help you — you can see what I have to say on my website called Texting to Love. Here’s what some customers had to say about it: www.textingtolove.com